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Tuesday, April 21, 2009


Men and boys are truly one in the same. Boys are supposed to grow into men, but men somehow are always boys... How is that possible?

I finally caught up on most of my miss Oprah's from the past week, and I got to watch the teen sex shows...OMG. I think I about spit out my Crystal Light Pink Lemonade that I was enjoying.


2 14 yr olds actually believed that they were ready for sex, yeah you read that correctly. Its shocking that after dating for 3 months and being totally like, in love, they were for their 1st times. Ummm... you're 14 dears, you know NOTHING. While I don't believe in all the tactics that have been discussed in these past few shows I do agree with a couple things.

1. Have a open line of communication with your child
2. Explain to them what sex is and how it affects not only your body, but your mind and soul
3. Help the child take ownership of their body, make them respect it and treasure it
4. Ask them the important questions and make them think about consequences (really think about them)

One interesting fact that was discussed is that a person's frontal lobe is not fully developed until around the age of 21. The frontal lobe controls impulses and judgement. This can explain a lot, or at least it did to me.

The funniest part was when the 2 kids were asked how long do they think this relationship would last after they had sex... They both said a LONG time... okay kids define LONG.

The Boy - 6 months to a year, I mean come on its High School

The Girl - there is no expiration date

Yeah... that's pretty much the mind of a high school (college and/or any) boy works...

What did you all think about the show?


Mojito Maven said...

wow. i didn't see this show, but age 14 is far too young to me. i was in no way mature enough for sex.

J.J. said...

I didn't see the show, but I thought about this topic yesterday. On the drive home, after picking up my kiddos from school) I saw a couple of youngish teens walking home and they were literally attached at the hip, while walking, with arms all holding on to each other like there was a hurricane coming. The display was not exactly what I would call offensive...but rather a display of immaturity, as if to say..."my brain lobe has not fully developed, nor has my ability to delay gratification."

Malissa said...

I just watched the first half of that show last night. I was sickened at the thought of 14 year olds having sex. They are still children! I agree with you that parents need to do a better job of explaining the emotional aspects of sex to their kids. I was a little taken off guard by the previous episode where the 10 year old was asking here Mom all about sex, very specific questions. I thought that whole exchange was a little odd.

Perfectly Imperfect said...

didn't see this show, but 14?! i think i was still running around climbing trees with skinned knees at 14! no way thinking about sex.

Casey (@ Chaos and Cardboard) said...

I laughed so hard when he said 6 months! It's 2x as long as they have already dated! Ha!

I was much more with Gale than Dr. Bermann. There is open communication and then there is too much information. I will NOT be giving my teenage daughter a vibrator!

Megan said...

I didn't see this show (I very rarely watch Oprah) but I wish I had! It's crazy how young children feel that they are ready for such adult decisions!

Wearing Mascara said...

Ya... 14 is very young. And yes, the frontal lobe is the last part to develop (I've heard around 24-25 though surprisingly) and that is your executive functioning area that basically controls everything... making decisions, how quick you decide without thinking through, etc etc... Thanks for this post!

MsFreshBananaPuddin said...

I had my first kiss at 14.It tasted like pizza, cigs. and in no way was I influenced enough to want to go all the way.Gross.I could barely get a damn tampon in at 14, let along the shaboinka...


Crazy Shenanigans-JMO said...

AMEN! I agree boys never completely grow up. There's always still a big kid inside them. I missed the show but I can only imagine!

Hannah said...

I didn't see it, but I think most highschoolers are dumb anyways, so I'm not surprised!!!

I didn't know that about the full-frontal lobe!! That explains why I Was so impulsive and had bad judgement when I was in highschool! My judgement is perfect now! ;) ;) ;)

Random Hiccups said...

I cannot believe it! That is absolutely shocking. I am a bit old fashioned and I only had sex once I got married.

I didn't even think boys we cool at 14. I thought they had cooties.

I didn't even think I was that old. sad day.

Kelly said...

I personally was not sexually active at 14 but I do know a group of my friends that were. At 14! I think it's very hard and parents do need to be involved. While the children at this age are not mentally prepared or ready for sex and the consequences their bodies are which is what causes the problem.

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