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Monday, May 18, 2009

The TALK...

The Jetplanes have been having THE TALK and by THE TALK I am referring to the BABY TALK. If you've read my blog for a while you'll know that I'm scared to have kids and I'm pretty sure I'm not old enough, even though I am almost 29 years old. Yes, I know I'm physically old enough, but I'm talking about the important stuff...emotionally, spiritually, mentally, etc. etc.

Just because people (i.e. kids) can have children doesn't mean they should, right? I'm still freaked out by the whole idea of something growing inside me, yes... I told you I was immature about this.

Do I want children... the answer is YES. Does Mr. Jetplane want kids that would be a double YES. When do we want to have them... that is the question. I'm almost 30 and we want to have 2 kids. And I have this irrational fear of not being able to conceive. Also, I had my palm read earlier this year and the woman told me I'd have 2-3 miscarriages in my life. Yes, she could be a total freaking con artist, but still that just feeds my fear.

We move to NC at the end of August. Mr. Jetplane will be in intensive training for 9 months, we're talking 12 to 14 hours day of school and studying (which has to be done on base, since its all "super secret", that what I referred to classified as" having a child, and by having it I mean physically giving birth to it and raising it during those 9 months, is totally OUT OF THE QUESTION. But that being said, getting knocked up during those 9 months could be possible, however unlikely since said training will consume our lives.

So yes... we're getting closer to actually being ready to think about starting to try to have kids. Yes, I know this may seem strange but for us its a big step, ok for ME its a big step. Mr. Jetplane is a big kid, so he's totally fine and not freaked out in the least bit.

We're both going to be 29 shortly, celebrating our 1 year anniversary, and will have been together 5 years in August. So a baby Jetplane may be making an appearance in the next year or so... wow its weird thinking about this.

27 comments:

High Heels & Combat Boots said...

Your fears are rational!! Josh and I said we would wait til we were married 5 years and we are about one year away from that. However he will be getting deployed soon so we are talking about trying before he leaves...We'll see how that turns out. Good luck!

J.L.S. said...

Glad I'm not the only one with these fears... though I am still at least a few years away from even considering having them! Glad you are starting to take the steps!

Christy said...

I hear ya! We are right there with you age-wise. Since we've only just gotten married, our thinking is that we will wait 1 year before trying (right after my 30th birthday)

It's exciting to think about, but a little weird, a little crazy and a little scary all at the same time!

Sarah said...

We have that same are we ready talk all the time.. I have a bunch of fears about it too. If it's the right time for you guys you will know it you will feel comfortable about it

Lucky in Love said...

That is definitely a big step...and super exciting! It is really great that the two of you are able to openly talk about your feelings and fears about having a baby and work it out together. Good luck!

Sara said...

First, I'm totally freaked out by something growing inside me. Seriously freaked out.

You'll know when the time is right for you. It is nice to have that serious talk though.

I get kisses said...

So reliefed that I'm not the only one. I want children but I'm so afraid, it's such a a huge responsability, hubs and I have been talking about and if we want to have a baby before I turn 30 we need to get pregnant prety soon since I turn 29 in two weeks.
Will see what God decides for all of us that have this fears

A Military Wife said...

I completly understand. Though we already have one little one (she was the surprise) the thought of another one right now is scary! Good luck to you guys!

Lis said...

I totally get what you are saying. We are kind of in the same boat right now. And even though I am almost 28 part of me still feels like I am just a kid!! Good luck!! :)

Sweet Simplicity said...

Ah, the talk! I have this weekly with the hubs. We have a timeline and its going to be a while, but I can't help but bring it up all time. I'm sure I am driving him crazy! :) It sounds like you have a good plan.

~Mrs. Guru~ said...

Awe, you will be such a good mom! I am scared to death to have kids as well.

Mandy said...

You should have some fears, its a huge step...But they are so worth it! And being in the military, there is never a perfect time to have them..Good luck & I hope I am in your top ten people to call when you find out!!! ;)

writing4612 said...

That's why you shouldn't get your palm read...you'll replay what he/she said over and over. 90 percent of the things that you worry about NEVER happen, so I'm sure you'll be fine.

I try not to dwell on the negative in life beciause it will get me depressed in a hurry.

There will never be a perfect or convenient time to have kids.

I wish you the best in whatever you two decide. At least you're not making this decision lightly.

J.J. said...

That is great that you have so many readers that are right here with you. Good luck with it all, it is an exciting time for you guys!

We are just on the other side of the baby stuff, all 4 pregnancies btw coincided with our PCS schedule. hee hee.

Cookie Crums said...

I think every "mom" has this fear up until the baby is born. And if most were honest, for a little while after the baby is born....thinking, "What the heck did I get myself into??!!" My little one will be 2 in August. And I'm asking kind of like you are with baby #2....now?? or wait??

These are serious, life altering choices. Not things to be taken lightly...saying that....being a mom is the absolute best experience in the world...even with all the headaches and "work".

Legallyblondemel said...

We've been having The Talk too. Same fears, some related concerns. It's a doozy, isn't it?

Allison aka HaselBride said...

Ahhh! This was a part of a little disagreement N and I were having last night. With military life, there is never a convenient time and if you thought it was the AF will find a way to change it. N wants like three kids, and lately I haven't decided if I even want one. On top of that, pregnancy scares me to death.

Chic Runner said...

Love it! Jetplane babies are going to be super cute, I just know it, and you are going to be a great mom! :) Glad you are so open to it and talking about it.

Muffy said...

WOW! How serious!!!! Keep us updated!!!!

Jessica Lynn said...

the second question after "when's the big [wedding] day" has been, "so when are you guys having kids." Gah! First things, first, people!

Needless to say, the thought of having and raising a child scares me more than anything right now. More than getting married, moving away from family, having a husband deploy. Eeek! It's a huge step and I like knowing I'm not the only one who thinks it's scary!

Mojito Maven said...

Wow. This is HUGE for you!!! As you know we want to remain childfree so I completely understand your fears, but I think it's great that you are ready to have the talk. I have no doubts you both will make the decision that is best for you and your hubby! keep us posted.

Marge said...

That is a huge conversation. We feel the same way and are starting to talk about "trying" after our Costa Rica trip Jan 2010. It's a weird place to be when you aren't quite ready but start to talk about it...

Miss E said...

I'm so with you. Not ready at all, although Hubs is chomping at the bit. I want them someday, but I still think of someday as a long time down the road. But we've been together for almost 7 years, married for almost 4 and both turning 28 in the next 2 months. YIKES!

Lins said...

A baby is a big step...but man what a beautiful baby it would be! :)

*~! megs !~* said...

gah! Scary.. but super exciting!!

And I think ya'lls children would be too cute for words. just saying =)

Ashley said...

Congratulations!! That is a huge step!

I wish we could plan things out exactly though. I'm finding the lack of control in this process very frustrating. Hopefully everything will go smoothly for you!

Two Little Lambs said...

Go ahead and just Do IT! I had my first child at 33 and wish I had started earlier. Once that child gets here you'll wonder why you waited AND more importantly-How you EVER lived without them???

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