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Friday, March 13, 2009

Kids today are idiots...

It makes me sick to my stomach to read statistics showing that around 40% of teens think that Rhianna deserved to get beat up and that this type of violence is 'normal' in a relationship. That 40% includes girls.

Excuse me... what the hell are you talking about?

I watched Oprah's special about this yesterday. I wanted to physically shake the girl that thought Rhianna deserved it because its alleged that she hit Chris Brown. So what if she did slap him once or twice, he could have subdued her, kicked her out of the car, or whatever. Beating the crap out of her where is has bruises all over, was not called for or legal for that matter.

And now she's back with him... what does this say. It saddens me and scares me that kids think its ok.

While I have never been physically abused by a boyfriend, I did date one that was extremely controlling and tried to tell me that I was nothing without him. Luckily, he dumped me because I didn't adhere to his 'rules' the way I was suppose to. The next girl he dated (whom he cheated on me with, who was supposed to have been my friend) it was rumored that he did hit her. I can see him doing that, he had a very bad temper. Oh... and this was all during my sophomore year of high school. I count myself as lucky to get out of that relationship.

I really think it leads to parents taking a more active role in their children's lives. These poor girls have low esteem and think at some level they deserve this. Love doesn't hurt and it doesn't leave bruises. If they'll hit you once, they will hit you again. Don't fool yourself. Be Smart.

15 comments:

PreppyGirl said...

Tell me about it!! I posted about this yesterday. Some girl in my class said that she heard Rihanna was "not a nice person" and that "she must've done something to provoke him" .... not cool!

Tania said...

That's craziness! How do these kids think this is OK? Do their dads beat up on their moms? Wow, I'm really shocked to hear about this. It seems kids are getting dumber and dumber as each generation rolls out.

hotpants™ said...

It's never ok to hit a woman. I don't think she should have hit him either, but she certainly didn't deserve it. I feel a little differently now that she's staying with him. This wasn't the first time he's done it and it won't be the last. She can't just blame him anymore going forward.

Laura Lives Fabulously said...

I completely agree with this post. I work at low income school and every single one of my children have told me that she deserved for one reason or another. I guess it is hard for them to think it is wrong when it is what so many kiddos experience at home....it is horrible cycle...

Dugout Daisy said...

Seriously! I agree with everything you said in this post.
When I was in college I took a class that examined the effect of Disney movies on little kids and I was shocked at the message that Beauty and the Beast was sending. Little kids were interviewed after and asked if they had a friend who was with a mean and abusing person like the beast what would they tell their friend... they all said that they would tell her that he is probably a nice guy and just has a bad temper and to stick it out... !!!
yes! shocking!
I think parents need to show thier children that things like that are just not okay and girls really need positive role models, strong women. They should use Rihanna as an example of what NOT to do, but don't bash Rihanna cos she is a victim. I think the poor girl has serious self-image issues and thinks that she either deserves it or can't do any better. it's just all so sad!
sorry this was so long! :/

Chic Runner said...

OMG I didn't watch the show but WOW girls out there are definitely not in the right mindset, my boyfriend asked me ( and he would NEVER do this ) if I would leave him if he hit me and I said OH HELL YES. no way am I putting up with that and I can't believe some girls would. So sad

Bumpkin on a Swing said...

Listen to Jetplane. IF THEY HIT YOU ONCE THEY WILL DO IT AGAIN!
Also, if they hit you once call The Bumpkin and Associates, we will help you dig, actually we transport to the alligator farm. NO DNA!
I am like you Jetette, it literally makes me sick that children are seeing this! Thank Goodness Oprah tried an intervention.

Ashley said...

I've heard this and I just can't believe it. How can any one person think she deserved it? Much less 40%? So sad.

a H.I.T. said...

I think people just don't understand reality sometimes, especially in this day and age when not much is really sacred anymore.

My mother was in an abusive relationship and made sure she spoke to all her children about it so that we would all understand the severity of the circumstance. She wanted to make sure her two daughters were educated and informed enough to stay away from people who would cause us harm. She also wanted to make sure her two sons would never, ever raise a hand to a woman and that they understood that it was never warranted.

I think she raised us right in telling us that confidential information and I plan on sharing it with my own kids one day in hopes that they will never experience what Rihanna did and if they do, they have the right mind to stay away after.

jlc said...

I PRAY that my students don't follow her lead.


Ugh what kinda role model is she now??? :(

Miss E said...

I couldn't agree more, it really makes me sad for the future. Hope you have a great weekend. Not too much longer now!

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writing4612 said...

I completely agree. I have a family member that was abused, but, thankfully, she got out.

So many people don't see anything wrong with it because their abused at home.

the Preppy Princess said...

This whole things is just so sad, and it unfortunately fits the pattern t a T. And we hadn't seen these statistics, they make me want to go be an ostrich. Yikes!

AmberP said...

I couldn't BELIEVE when that girl was saying that she thought that Rhianna should have been hit because she hit him first. Oh my goodness - what is this world coming to? Are we degrading ourselves THAT much as women, do we need men that much to make ourselves feel validated?? I was very confused by this girl, and hope that her parents sat her down and had a heart to heart. Explain to her that physical violence in any shape or form (self defense or not) is NOT right!

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